I’m often asked, How do you do it? How do you cook all of that yummy stuff with the three boys running around?
Well…sometimes it’s not so easy. Sometimes it feels downright near impossible. And sometimes I don’t even try. We pick up some prepared salads or sandwiches from the grocery store, order a pizza, or I give the kids what I call ‘snack dinner’, which is essentially a random collection of snacky type things like a mozzarella cheese stick, cup of yogurt, handful of grapes, or some carrots sticks and dip. (Snack dinner happens to be the boys’ most favorite meal.)
But I do cook a lot and I’ve developed a repertoire of strategies which I employ to get the job done. Perhaps they’ll work for you too…
Strategy 1 – Involve the Kids
I love cooking with the kids. It’s an activity which is bursting with very natural learning opportunities, plus it teaches kids about foods and flavors and makes them more willing to try out new things. Best of all, when they’re engaged in helping you, they’re not off doing other sorts of mischief. You can read a bit more about involving kids in the kitchen in my special section devoted towards cooking with kids.
Strategy 2 – Kitchen Dance Party
Sometimes, getting the kids involved in the meal preparation just isn’t logistically possible. When that’s the case, I initiate kitchen dance party. I have an ipod dock sitting on my kitchen counter. We cue up my running mix and pump the volume. And then we dance our butts off while I tend to whatever I’m whipping up that day. All three boys come running when Ice, Ice, Baby starts pumping through the kitchen. Who doesn’t love a song which includes lyrics about a pound of bacon??
Strategy 3 – Serve an Amuse Bouche
In fancy restaurants, they often serve an amuse bouche. Amuse bouche translates literally to ‘mouth amuser’. It’s usually some small bite-sized hors d’oeuvre of the chef’s choosing; a little blini topped with smoked salmon and caviar or a tiny cup of seasonal bisque or a bite of perfectly-cooked truffled risotto. The entire idea of an amuse-bouche makes me absolutely gleeful. It’s like a bonus course, a little surprise. And it helps makes the time between ordering your food and the arrival of your first course more pleasant. In the home, an amuse bouche may buy you the time you need to cook the actual meal. Of course, I’m not serving salmon, truffles, and caviar to my children. A handful of cherries, scoop of cereal, or a strawberry spinach smoothie usually does the trick…it just needs to be something which keeps them busy and adds a bit of nutritional value to the coming meal.
Strategy 4 – Cook in Parts
I rarely cook a meal from start to finish all at once. I cook in parts, when the opportunities present themselves. If the kids are playing independently, I hop into the kitchen and chop the onions for a tasty penne ala vodka. Then I stick them in a baggie in the fridge. A little while later, while the baby’s napping, I may measure the cream and chop the prosciutto. When the boys are eating lunch, I grate the cheese. In the culinary world, chefs use the term mise en place, which essentially translates to ‘everything in its place’. It’s basically referring to the process of prepping and gathering all of your ingredients prior to cooking. It’s a good practice to get into whether you have kids or not. Gathering and preparing everything before you get started will save you a whole lot of scrambling around while you cook. I prepare my ‘mise en place’ in little bits all throughout the day so that when dinner rolls around, I just need to put it all together.
Strategy 5 – Put on Your Blinders and Charge Onward
Sometimes everything else fails and you just need to plug along. In fact, just this morning, as I was preparing a cake for a pool party potluck we’ll be attending tomorrow, I had a nightmarish cooking experience. I tried our dance party tactic, which worked for a while, until my 5-year-old threw himself head and hands first onto the floor in an attempt to do some sort of headstand type move, which he clearly has no business doing. While performing this ambitious maneuver, he managed to injure his hand, which resulted in the immediate need for icepacks, pretend bandages, and snuggles. I then moved onto to the ‘amuse bouche’ strategy in an attempt to get the cake in the oven. In this case, I gave everyone a scoop of the peanut butter chips I was using in the cake. The baby ate a few and then abandoned his peanut butter chips in favor of clawing at my legs and screaming at me to pick him up. The dog wasted no time and immediately stuck his tongue into the baby’s snack bowl. I threw the now slimy snack bowl into the sink, picked up the baby and held him on my hip while I continued preparing the cake batter. At this point, I realized that in my distracted state, I’d almost forgotten to add the cocoa to my chocolate cake. As I moved to the pantry the grab the cocoa, commotion ensued in the living room. Turns out that my three-year-old had found his favorite shoes outside, put them on, and proceeded to spread dog poopy all over the house and his toys. I stopped again to clean the mess, then thoroughly washed my hands in scalding hot water and proceeded to finish the cake with the baby on my hip. Sometimes you just need to charge onward.
And when all else fails, a glass of melon sangria usually helps…for you, not the kids, silly goose!
I *have* wondered how you do it! Thanks for these strategies ! A couple of mine are “make ahead” meals and double the recipe so leftovers are for another night !
Also excellent ideas!!
I just have to say, in addition to the wonderful recipes and cooking advice you give here, I can’t get enough of reading about the antics of having 3 young boys and somehow fitting great meals into the mix! And, may I just say – you are brilliant at talking about everyday life and tying it into your recipe for the day – please never give up blogging, i would miss it so much!!:)
Awww! Thank you so much!! It’s always nice to hear such sweet feedback!
Sounds like our kids are the same age and I emply many of the same strategies–but the dance party is a new one and I will definitely be trying that! (Anything to minimize the number of times I have to finish dinner with a baby in the Ergo headbangingbon my back and a three year old literally wrapped around my leg.). 🙂
My problem is that I have a 22 year old rival food blogging daughter competing for the kitchen space, the cameras, the lights, the bowls, the pots etc., etc. She ropes the boyfriend in on the act too. Give me three small kids any day.
Lovely post btw.
Yes, I’m taking notes!!!
Sounds like we approach the kitchen in much the same way. My 2 year old’s most beloved kitchen tool is his “tep tool” also known as step stool. The baby gets in on the action while sitting in the moby. I even made up a spatula song that we sing when there is nothing for them to measure or stir. My motto is “Only good things come out of the mix master.” I really enjoy reading your stories and checkin in for recipes. Thanks for the entertaining blog.
Getting them involved has always been my #1 strategy, usually with a bunch of science thrown in. Food chemistry was one of the first grabs for my older daughters to be science lovers now.